Her ex bf just stopped by unannounced?

she dated im a few years ago. dont hardly ever talked over the few years. The last time she talked to him was before we started dating. he contacted her last week by IM. Yesterday, he just stopped by unannounced. He was there for about 15 minutes. She told me, and i asked her if she talked about us? she said no, it didnt come up. Though she had sunburn, and when he asked her about it, she said she was at a tournament, my tournament, but admitted to me she purposely left me out of it. i asked her why, and she said she didnt want to throw it in his face. Please help me understand?
Her ex bf just stopped by unannounced?
hmm this is hard she should have said something ... like stand up or respect your relationship ... something like that .. instead of a tournament she should have said my b/f s tournament that was kindve messed up but at least she was honest
Her ex bf just stopped by unannounced?
Well at least she was honest in telling you that he stopped over. I think your over-analyzing this a bit if she wanted someone else I'm sure she would tell you as long as you guys have a good relationship. As long as it doesn't keep happening and she doesn't lie I would just let it slide. No need to cause a problem over nothing
Reply:First off an ex showing up without being invited , and the person invited him in ?? hMMMM let me to wonder maybe dep down she still wants him
Reply:She probably didn't want to hurt his feelings, she's with you why are you worried?
Reply:well it sounds like something's going on. he probably wants her back and she is too afraid to tell you. she's probably feeling very confused and scared. i wouldn't worry if i were you, it sounds like she really wants to stay with you. and she's being honest with you, so you're okay. :] just reaffirm to her that you're always there for her, night/day. always.


just letting her know that should really help.


other than that, there's really nothing you can do.


good luckkk !
Reply:Disregard my answer i completely misunderstood the question!
Reply:You just have to understand that girls have to keep a distance away from their boyfriends. what she means by throwing it in your face is that she wants to wait till she is comfortable with it and then tell you. It's how girls work. But you are not totally wrong, it is alright to be suspicious about what she said. But I advise you, wait till she is ready
Reply:i dunno i mean its different if he still cool with her fam
Reply:All I gotta say about that is don't be blind. I wouldn't really try to understand it-just be on the lookout for other signs. If she continues to see him I would have a serious talk. I'm not believing her but try not to ask so many questions or your gonna drive yourself crazy. Just let it go for now.
Reply:Perhaps she felt it would be awkward to talk to her ex BF about her present relationship, even if she doesn't feel anything toward him anymore. I mean, if you visited with an ex GF, would you want her to go on about the guy she's seeing? (Although a brief acknowledgement would've been nice...)
Reply:She may still have feelings for him. I'm not saying she wants to leave you and run to him but when you have truely moved on you don't care about hurting an Ex's feelings. Obviously something in their IM lead him to believe that he could just drop by anytime and be welcome.





You need to have a honest talk with you girlfriend and don't make any demands but let her know how you feel and see where you relationship goes from there.